Welcome back to Your Professional Organiser’s blog, where the focus is on helping busy women in South London declutter their homes in more eco-friendly ways. In today’s fast-paced world, it’s so easy for our homes to become cluttered, but one of the trickiest culprits, is the item that we don’t even like. They are tricky because they are often items that we are using in our day-to-day lives, so they do serve a purpose. It’s only when we take time to tune in to how an item makes us feel that it’s true colours become obvious. Maybe it’s a lamp that just doesn’t give off enough light, a desk that is too big, curtains that don’t quite fit the window or a baking pan that has seen much better days. In this blog, let’s explore the importance of really paying attention to how we feel about the items in our homes, and letting go of the ones that we don’t like to not only have a tidier home, but also a happier, calmer space to enjoy.
Why Letting Go Matters
1. Creating Space for Joy
You may not have even consciously noticed that you curse when you stub your toe every time you walk past that slightly too large coffee table or that when you pull out that saucepan that once witnessed the burning of a dinner, you remember the occasion with annoyance. These mild but negative nonetheless feelings creep up almost under the surface so that sometimes they go unnoticed for a very long time. The truth is that unless you stop and listen to what your body is telling you about certain items, you may not realise how they are making you feel. One of the main reasons for letting go of the things that you don’t like is to rid yourself of this negativity, and to make space for things that truly bring you joy. Imagine the way that you would be feeling if you surrounded yourself with ONLY things that you love or that ONLY brought positivity into your space. Filling your home with these items can improve your overall mental wellbeing by promoting a more cheerful environment.
2. Reducing Environmental Impact
When you love an item, you are much more likely to take better care of it. Whether it requires wiping, dusting, or cleaning, these acts are performed with much more enthusiasm and attention to detail when the item feels important to you. By taking the time to give these items a bit more care, you are effectively extending their life. Something that is well tended naturally lasts longer than something that is neglected. The same argument can be used to let go of items that you don’t like as you will be less likely to attend to them in ways that will make them last. Letting them go by donating or selling allows the item to be taken into a home that may be inspired to give it a bit more love.
3. Enhancing Mental Wellbeing
It’s true that all clutter can cause you stress and anxiety. The mental overstimulation of the senses on top of the negative self-talk that gets heaped on when clutter accumulates in your home causes your body’s stress levels to rise and anxieties to increase especially when you can’t find something. Add a bit or a lot of dislike for an item into the mix and your normal levels of stress reach new levels. That’s not even taking into account the items that you hang onto that you don’t like in your home. Letting go of unnecessary possessions, particularly if you don’t even like them can have a positive effect on your mental health, leading to you to feel more relaxed and more focused in your space.
Common Challenges and How to Overcome Them
1. Sentimental Attachments
For some people, this one is the hardest. No matter how much you dislike something, you refuse to let it go because someone special gave it to you. I totally get that. It may feel disrespectful if you were to get rid of it or the person’s feelings might be hurt to find out you didn’t like the gift as much as they wanted you to. The truth is that the love is in the giving, and you received that love when you accepted the gift. That’s not to say that the other person may be slightly miffed that you don’t want the item, but if you were to turn it around, would you want someone you loved to keep something they didn’t like just so that your feelings weren’t hurt?
2. Fear of Regret
This one has two sides to it, really. The first one is the regret of the money you may have spent on the item. This is a hard one, because it can be quite powerful in persuading you to keep something you don’t like. It can sometimes feel like you are just throwing money away. It’s fair to say that everyone makes mistakes, and this can be true when you buy something you think you like only to find out that it doesn’t work in the way you imagined. The reality is that the money was gone the moment you bought the item. You shouldn’t be punished for making a choice that didn’t work out the way you thought it would. It’s time to forgive yourself, and let the item go.
The second part of the regret you might feel is that you think the item might be useful someday. What if you let go of the item and then you need it again in the future? It happens. I hear stories. I’m not naïve that this might not be a reality sometimes. There is a better way to think about this situation though. You must have enough faith in yourself to believe that if you desperately needed that item again, you are resourceful enough to find another one somehow. Trust yourself. You’ve got this!
Decluttering your home and letting go of things you don’t like is a transformative process. By taking this journey, your home will only contain things that bring you joy and happiness and will therefore have a positive impact on your mental wellbeing. Not to mention, that giving your clutter that you don’t like a new home where it will be loved is great for the environment because you are prolonging the life of those items. Remember, it’s all about creating a home that truly reflects who you are and what you cherish.